Saturday, October 26, 2013

Marriage Advice - Link Up

I am linking up with Kelly's Korner today on Marriage Advice. **She forgot to post yesterday, so I am posting this anyway!! :)

According to Mr. Webster, marriage is a legally, religiously, or socially sanctioned union of persons who commit to one another, forming a familial and economic bond:

Marriage is HARD!  It takes work.  When you mesh two lives into one, that can be challenging.  Add in children, finances, housework, side businesses (etsy shop, grass mowing, fire department) etc....It can get tough QUICK.

I do not feel as though I can give 'great' marriage advice.  Blair and I have been married for almost 6 years (gasp!  That was fast!)  While we have a great relationship, we still have our ups and downs.  Life gets in the way, and it is truly our nature to put everyone/everything before us.  I am sure many of you are like this. 

^^ On our honeymoon in Cancun!!

However, to maintain a healthy relationship, you have to feed it (which is a constant battle that we all should be working on).  I have received a lot of advice in the past and everyone always says that to be the best role models for our girls, we must first establish a rock strong relationship in our marriage.

All marriages should be set up like this:

1.  God first
2.  Husband/Wife
3.  Children

^^I was about 5 weeks pregnant here...Didn't know it was twins! :)

That is hard for me to grasp.  Not the first point, obviously.  But knowing to put your husband over your kids sounds difficult.  BUT, it is so necessary.  I want to teach my girls that having a strong relationship with Jesus Christ is of utmost importance.  Second, I want to teach them to find a soul mate that will walk along side them and stay with them through thick and thin.   
^^A new family of 4!!

A dear Pastor Friend of mine recently gave me some great advice, so I am going to share it with you.

Rule of 7.7.7

Every 7 days, go on a date.  This doesn't have to be fancy.  It can be dinner/movie, it can be a picnic, walk on the beach, ride around town (like we used to as kids), etc.  Just take a couple hours and be TOGETHER with no interruptions.

Every 7 weeks, take a small getaway.  A little one night, two night getaway.  This can simply be the kids staying at the grandparents, and you taking time together at home.  Or, it can be an actual getaway, stay in a hotel/condo in another town.  Whatever your finances can afford.

Every 7 months, take a little more elaborate vacation.  A few nights getaway, just the two of you.

The Last two might take some planning!  Your budget will depend on your 'getaways'.  If money is tight, just have the kids stay at the grandparents, and have date night in with a movie!  The more elaborate vacation will take some budgeting, but being conscious about that will make the getaway more worth it in the end.

While I just received this advice last week, we haven't had a chance to really 'test' it out.  But, I am excited to start this and see how it helps mine and Blair's relationship.

Why don't you give it a try in your relationship?  Leave me comments and let me know what you think, or how you could tweak this to better fit YOUR lives...
^^ No, this isn't wishing you a Merry Christmas..ha.  I just thought this made a cute photo! :)

^^Bahahahaha....One of my all time favorite photo of the girls!! :):)


Sarah said...

Hopped over from Kelly's Korner and love the advice! So many people think you should put your children before your marriage, but to me, they are even. Both need loving care in order to survive! PS - your twinks are adorable!

Kari & Blair said...

Sarah, thank you so much for stopping by!!! Parenting/Marriage is hard, right!? Whew. But, it is all so worth it. Just finding the balance that works is key!! Thanks again! ;);)